Tag: Mommy bloggers in South Africa

Whirlwind and hospitals

What a whirlwind of a day that included the hospital! Tonight calls for a facemask, glass of wine and a big bubble bath! I had to fetch Bella from school early to take her to the nurse, then the doctor and finally the Radiology department at the local hospital for a suspected appendicitis! Thank the Lord she was ok and it wasn’t too serious but my poor nerves are shot! Little Miss has been driving me slightly crazy the past two weeks as she misses her dad who relocated last year. Being around other dads and their daughters can be very hard for her and guess who she turns to as her emotional punching bag…me! I can understand it but even my patience gets tested and depending on the time of the month, I have a lot of it. Daddy is here for business for two days and so B had gone to visit there (last night) and tonight. I must say, seeing him and chatting to him at the hospital was actually nice, no fighting or being rude and it wasn’t about other issues but B. She loved it as well, she often asks when the three of us will go do something but like I have explained to her, it isn’t going to happen.

As you probably know I am going through this get fit/reasonably healthy eating (she hides McD’s wrapper under bed)  phase and I’ve lost more weight! The turkey skin under my arms is starting to firm up and I may have biceps by the end of the year. However, there is more to this development. I love Garnier’s Caffeine Eye roller thingy that de-puffs the bags under your eyes and if you are a night owl like me, makes the black circles under your eyes seem less like the colour of a tyre. One catch, they no longer make it. Sigh. So I have been on a mission to try to find a de-puffer. B also has this fungus that seems to get worse with over the counter creams and lotions.

Before and during..
Before and during..

Enter brainwave whirlwind…Pinterest….How to get rid of fungus naturally/create an de-puffer eye cream…Pin… I am happy to say that I have found a recipe that will work for B (lavender oil, coconut oil, shea butter, jojoba oil and coconut oil, blend and use) to get rid of the fungus. While doing this I read up on the uses of jojoba oil and decided to give it a try. There are two products that I do not skimp on, one is moisturizer and the other is eye cream. There is a reason that people think I look 27 when I’m 33. So I decided to give the jojoba oil a try. Morning I use my normal creams and at night I rub a drop or two of jojoba oil and rub it into my face and neck. The difference is quite remarkable! My skin feels clearer, softer and just better. I’ve also started to exfoliate twice a week which is also helping a lot!

So wish me luck on my quest for a de-puffer eye cream, if I get the recipe I that works and I like, I will post it !

 

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Rainbows and storm clouds

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hello little blog! I have missed you and I am sorry that I have been so quiet but so much has been happening in my life that I was scared that if I started writing, I would not stop and your page would be filled with a million thoughts.

So much has happened since I last wrote to you. Some of them have been good, some have been bad and some have smashed my little heart into pieces. But I’ve picked the pieces up, taped them back together and tried hard not to show how it hurts. I am stronger than I think and boy has that been tested this year! It has been a few months of rainbows and storm clouds!

Since we last spoke, I have done the Impi Challenge 2013,and our theme was Spyder Pigs all 12km of it and made it through pretty reasonably considering I didn’t manage to get as fit as I thought! I crawled under barbed wire, crawled through a sewerage pipe that had water in, jumped off a 3m ledge into a freezing dam and I finished the race! I did it! Little old couch potato over here did it for me!

Impi Challenge 2013

 

B is getting older and I threw a party for her at her school this year and she was so happy that I was there that she refused to allow me to sit anywhere else but right next to her and kept smiling at me and saying “My Mommy is here” and telling all the other children! My baby is 3 now and her birthday was quite hard for me but I made sure that my princess knew that she was loved by everyone around her and gave up a few things so that she could have a weekend that she would remember. I don’t know where the time has gone.

She also went for her first ad for a catalogue and I was sooo proud of her! She was so good and listened to the people. My little princess is turning into a little girl and although it still breaks my heart when she hurts or curls into my lap and needs an extra cuddle when she is sad, we have gotten to the point where she will tell me how she feels.  Getting her dressed in the mornings has become extra interesting as she now wants a say in what she wears so some days she does go to school with shoes that don’t match her outfit but I am teaching her how to make choices for herself. Sometimes it’s still hard doing this by myself but I have a great support system that love us dearly and gives me guidance.

The past few months people have played with my emotions, played me against other people, tried to use me as a pawn and this has been very very hard for me. People made choices and broke my heart but I have learnt some very hard lessons, things that I never thought that they would be forced to do. Some days it makes me very sad but you know what little blog, I am working with it step by step and when it feels like I don’t have any more strength, I look at my little girl and I remember what her name means (“God’s promise”) and I remember that I am not alone. I’ve had to deal with things that I would not wish on my worst enemy but have found strength in her, my friends and most of all my family.  When it gets too much for me I remember who was has been there and I love each and every one of them with more than they will ever know.

So what I am trying to say little blog, is that I am back, I won’t leave you alone again because I think you need me as much as I need you. 2014 is going to be an amazing year and together we will get through this. Thanks to all the people that send emails or tweets asking how I am, you are amazing and all your prodding has reminded me that I need to write, if not only for me but for those of you who seem to not feel so alone by my writing. You are never alone! Always remember that! So here is to the end of 2013 and the Christmas season and to the start of an amazing 2014.

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The juggling balls are falling

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Today was one of those days where you realise your wings are cut, the Super Mom logo has been removed and you are just having one of those days when the 100 balls that you are juggling all seem to plop onto your head with the heaviness of a bowling ball. Each one leaves a nasty dent as it rolls to the floor. The thing with being a mom is that before you only had to worry about yourself and your partner. If you had one of these days, getting into bed with a good book, glass of wine or something stronger and staying there until you decided to get up was ok. Now with a kiddie, this seems to only be possible once they are in bed. I still have to get Bella from school, get her home, bathed and fed while playing with her and giving her “Bella Time” and then off to sleep. Once she is asleep it’s time to back her bag for school, make sure she has a bottle for later and get her school clothes ready for the next day. Only then can I start to tackle the rest of the things and then maybe get into bed at a decent time before Bella wakes up and starts looking for me!

To keep the balls in the air takes quite a bit of planning and making sure that things go according to this plan. If her baby bag isn’t packed the night before, I have to run around like a banshee to get it done in the morning which takes away some of “our” time which means Bella gets whiney and vies for my attention. This makes me even later and then I get more worried about being late etc!

So I put “Back to Sanity” plan into place! I had a big cup of coffee, took a deep breath, did  a little gig, resolved to be more efficient and felt a 100 times better! Only I can help to make it better and if it means 5 minutes less in bed, so be it! Tomorrow will hold another day and I am going to be positive that all the balls will be in the air and not stress! As they say “Bring it!”

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It’s a Giveaway with Auds and Ends Creations

Can you say Vintage?

Everyone has different taste but one thing that always seems to come back is Vintage. Recently I heard of this fantastic lady called Audrey who owns and runs Auds & Ends Creations. The cutest hats, head bands and clips are but a few to mention and the character ones like Hello Kitty, owls, frogs and strawberry hats will have  your little one stand out in a crowd! Items are made according to your taste and specifications. But wait, there is more! Not only does she cater for the little ones, but she also makes wedding broaches, necklaces, earrings, headbands, bolero’s, shoes and tiara’s! Have a look at her website www.audsandendscreations.weebly.com

Best of all to celebrate their 1 year birthday on 30 June 2012, we have a give away for a Dino-Baby-Beanie as shown in the featured picture!  How can you get it? Follow these easy steps:

  1. “Like” the Auds & Ends Creations Facebook page
  2. Subscribe to Baby Bugs ‘n Berries and leave a comment

As easy as that! The competition is open until 30 June  2012 and the winner will be chosen via a lucky draw.  We will notify you via email that you have won and to get more details from you.

Sadly, the competition is only open to SA citizens

 

 

 

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Green Snot means – a parents worst nightmare!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If you have friends with a child, the quickest way to scare them is spend time with their little one and then afterwards casually mention that you saw green snot coming out of the child’s nose. Watch for panicky or worried looks! What could green snot mean? To a parent it translates to a signal that there is either a cold or flu on the way or that there is a sinus problem. This in turn brings out memories of  sleepless nights due to coughing and blocked or running noses, getting up to test fevers and a long day at work due to being tired. Now you might be thinking “Seriously?” but yes it is a sign that something isn’t right and if you don’t start taking care of it asap, you will have a sick little one on your hands.

Before having Bella, green snot to me meant the goo that you find in colourful bottles at the toy store that stick to your hands when you pull it out and play with it. Now it means that I have to have tissues on hand or wet wipes to wipe away snot that can create a whole different mask on a Bella’s face if I don’t wipe it off and makes me think of the silver stuff that snails leave behind them as they plod along! As you can imagine, this isn’t a pretty sight!

The morale of the story is this is when you have to act; get medicine or homeopathic stuff for colds and treat it before it starts to develop properly! When I saw green snot for the first time, I didn’t act as I thought that the lady that had told me about it was pulling my leg and boy did I pay for that mistake with lots of lost sleep and sick child that took longer to get better than had I acted immediately. Now when I see it I start early and nip it in the bud and then our household gets that little bit of extra sleep that we so dearly need and the germs don’t get to take hold!

 

Gratefully grateful

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gratefully grateful This evening has been a really cold evening and so I put on an extra blanket on Bella when she went to bed and put on a warmer top for myself. This made me think of all the other people out there tonight that don’t have extra blankets and warm clothes. The recession has caused not only the rich to lose their money, but those that were struggling have been hit harder. As an adult, we can make do with a lot less than children. We can still wear that old jersey from last year or the jeans that are a little tight around the tummy but children are constantly growing and often that top from last year doesn’t necessarily fit this year. As a parent, we want to give everything that we can to our children and it must be very hard when you know that you cannot buy your child that jersey or warm top and to see their faces look up at you with blue rimmed lips or chattering teeth. It must break your heart into a million pieces and I am sure that there are many parents that have stayed up at night worrying about where the next meal will come from, let alone the next jersey! This has encouraged me to start a program, that currently doesn’t have a name but I have been in contact with other mothers and I am convinced that whatever clothes we have that aren’t being used, can go to a good cause. There are many children out there that can benefit from us and who knows, maybe one day those children that we have helped, can become CEO’s of companies or maybe even be the people that give my daughter a job! All I know is that everyone can do with a helping hand and I plan on doing what I can. I’m grateful that I am in a position to help and although the recession has affected my family and I, I still have a roof over my head, food on my table and clothes that I can dress my child in. What are you going to do to help?

A Review on Rhubarb and Custard products!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If you hear of rhubarb and custard, what do you think of? To me it brings memories of fun filled Sunday lunches with my family and warm snuggles in the cold winter.

Family, bonding and closeness is exactly what the company Rhubarb & Custard evoke in their products. Their stylish but sturdy baby slings encourage bonding between the wearer and the baby while at the same time, allowing the wearer to have their hands free to carry on with their daily routines. The slings come in a variety of fabulous colours and to ensure closeness, they provide a guide on how to measure yourself so that the sling is the perfect fit! The material is of a good quality and the slings are the only pouch slings in South Africa to be certified to UK/EU Standards! Best of all, you can use them from birth up until 18kg! What an investment!

For breast feeding moms there is also the Nursing Cover so that you don’t have to go and hide in the spare room at braais and you can feed your baby at a restaurant without the fear of people looking at you strangely.

My favourite is the “Little Bunny” and “I love Boobies” t-shirts! They are cute and adorable and will bring a smile to anyone that reads them! They come in sizes from birth to 12 months so your little one will always have that something different from the rest and will brighten up someone else’s day!

Brilliant!

If you are pregnant and suffering from trying to get the right position so that you are comfortable at night, try the ‘V’ pillow…your partner will be very grateful! It supports you in all the right places so you that you don’t wake up sore and tired from tossing and turning the whole night.

The V-Pillow

If your little one starts to teeth, get yourself a Dribblies Bib which protects your little angel’s clothes from getting soggy from saliva and drooling. Not only stylish, absorbent and colourful, the bibs have 2 poppers to be able to adjust the size as little one grows.

Dribblies Bib

 

All-in-all, Rhubarb & Custard products are a must for pregnant ladies as well as mommies! Have a look at their website www.rhubarbandcustard.co.za for more information and to order your products! You won’t regret it!

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And the award goes to….

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Mums the word…..

Society has taught us that mothers should be on top of their game, be good at everything that they do and be the perfect role model for our children. We should have a clean house and everything should be on its place or nice and tidy. We should live for our children. While I agree with some of this I do also think that there is more to it,

Most mothers will not admit to having days when they aren’t in control and things seem to go at a mad pace. Sometimes its work, sometimes its life in general but sometimes it is our kids. We have so many roles to play that sometimes we forget who the actor is, ourselves. We are the wives or girlfriends and play the role of friend and lover in that aspect. We are the care-takers, cooks, cleaners and nurses for our children as well as our partners. We are the employee or boss at work and have to do a different role there. With so many balls in the air, when do we get time to spend on ourselves? When do we take care of us?

I can honestly say that sometimes I have to take a time out for myself and just spend time with me and not thinking of everyone else. Some days it might be on the way to work playing my favourite songs at full blast, some days it is when Bella is asleep but if I don’t do it, I can feel that everyone else around me starts to feel it too. That is often what we as mothers forget; that to be able to look after everyone else, we need to take care of ourselves. If we feel flu coming on, not to just keep going but to take the rest we need to be able to give our bodies the time it needs to rest. I am as guilty as the other mothers that I know but I have made a stand and I am starting to slowly spend more time on myself, to find the bits of me that were there before Bella and motherhood. My husband isn’t complaining and says I look better which in turn makes me feel better! When I have a day where things aren’t in control, I try to find something to laugh about or speak to a dear friend Kirsten who is also a mom and we bounce ideas or feelings off each other.

The morale of the story is that it is ok to have a bad day; it is ok to for things to be out of control and to accept that they are and deal with them accordingly. It’s ok if there is a cup or dishes from the night before as you fell asleep by mistake and didn’t do them. We as mothers shouldn’t beat ourselves up or allow others to do that. You are the best actress in the world with all the roles that you pay and there should be a daily award given to each and every mom out there! You are fabulous!

 

Smile and wave boys, smile and wave!

 

Education is very important to me and Bella and I have been playing fun learning games since she was an infant. Now please don’t think I am like Amy Chua in the Battle Hymns of a Tiger Mother but we would play games that looked silly to other people but that indirectly she would learn from. A perfect example is when she was 2 or 3 months old, I hung different coloured ribbons in the tree in front of our house. On warm days, I would put a blanket under the tree and Bella and I would lie on the blanket and watch the ribbons move in the wind. Another thing we would do is I would put her in her chair while I hung up washing and she would giggle at the washing and when the wind blew, giggle harder at the clothes moving. I found out later that this all apparently helps with eye movements.

I also don’t have a problem with messing, there have been many times when I have been covered in porridge or water or bits of food but this has never bothered me! She has learnt to water the plants and drink tea and many other little things that she might not have had I been fussy about it.

This new development phase she is going through is driving me a little insane and I know that it is very important but when you are a working mom, time is important and this new phase often ends up in a little bit of a fight. Bella is at the stage where she would like to “dress” herself. Now I  understand that it is important for her to learn to do this but when it takes up to 10 minutes to put her top on in the morning, this can create a problem as it takes up our play time. I always pack Bella’s school bag the night before and have gotten into the habit of packing her clothes out for the next day so that I don’t have to still figure out what she is going to wear and I can give her more attention.  How do you teach a child to dress herself?  I have resorted to taking my top off to show her how to put her head in the hole but she thinks it’s a big game and laughs at me! Dressing is a game to her now! One can’t draw her a picture as she would not understand either! I suppose its time to go onto the trusted old Google and see if there are any tips out there. Patience will just have to become another virtue in the dressing game!

 

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What are you watching?

Bella, who is 17 months, yesterday watched what I call her first real 10 minutes of sitting still and watching a children’s cartoon. She has never really been a fan of TV and has watched a minute or two of Mister Maker, Teletubbies and Little Einsteins but has actually never been interested in watching for longer.

This hasn’t really bothered me at all as I read somewhere that children should not really be watching TV until the age of 2 but it got me thinking, do we create the little kids that plonk themselves in front of the TV and refuse to play outside? Please don’t misunderstand me, fully understand that sometimes when our time is limited, it is easier to get kids to watch TV while we run around doing things but is this actually beneficial in the long run? Are we setting ourselves up for a struggle later on? I used to be a Plonker when I was younger and remember all the fights I had with my mother to go and play outside but I found cartoons and the History Channel too interesting to do what she said. I think the only thing that helped to get me away from the TV was books and then I became a Bookworm!

I have also realised how influential we are in what our children watch and the important role we have as guardians over our children. I have two perfect examples of this. My first example is when I was 10 years old, a friend’s mother allowed us to watch a movie called The Blob which is a horror movie and has a PG rating of 18 which my mother would never have allowed. I had nightmares for days and I was terrified that something would come out of the drains and suck me into it and I would never return. My husband and I have made a rule that Bella will not watch anything that has a PG rating other than PG without us being there and should she go to a movie night at a friend’s house, we will first ask what they will be watching. Some things are too graphic for little children and as parents; I firmly believe that parents have to check up on what their children are watching! Do yourself and your child a favour watch some of these Ninja cartoons that are currently on TV without your child and you will notice that some of them are actually very violent!

My second example is the Teletubbies and this might seem very silly to you but please bear with me. Bella has watched a total of maybe 2 minutes of the Teletubbies program in her entire life but if you had to put the program on now, I am sure that she would know exactly who they were! This is because a friend gave us a Telly Tubby book and Bella and I often sit and read the book together. She can say “Elli Ubbies and Ubby Oast”, knows who Po is and if you ask her to get the book, she knows exactly which one it is. Another friend also lent us a Po doll and Bella knows that it is a Teletubbies and that it goes “Uh oh”! What I am getting at is that if I had not introduced her to the world of the Teletubbies, would she even have been interested in them? Are we as parents and society playing into the hands of the marketing people from these programs by encouraging our children to watch them and buying them all the goodies that comes with it? I believe we are and we are doing it subconsciously with no harm intended to the children, after all some of them are actually quite educational and helps them to learn like Little Einsteins. Like all things, it should just be done in moderation.

Most importantly, I believe that we have to watch what our children are watching, stay up to date with what is on air and help them to understand that not everything they see is real! We do after all own the remote!

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Just the two of us!

Today my hubby and I went on a date day instead of date night. This is when my hubby and I leave my daughter with one of her sets of grandparents for a few hours and go and spend some quality time alone. You might call it something else like couples evening or Mommy and Daddy time.

Some people might say “How can you leave your daughter alone and go and have fun?” but I find it to be a very important thing to do with Hubby. We get to spend time outside of our normal environment and have supper or lunch in a restaurant without the other person going to the play are to check on Bella and eating individually. Sometimes we go and watch a movie together and share a big tub of popcorn and afterwards go window shopping in the Mall. It helps to reconnect us again and grow our relationship as a couple because this is what existed before Bella was born.  If we don’t look after each other on a couple bases as well, it will not be good for Bella as our relationship would deteriorate and eventually we would probably end in divorce. One only realises the importance of them when you haven’t been on date night for a while.

My problem is doing different things within our time frame? Going to the movie all the time can become boring and that’s not what I want our time alone to be! So the challenge is to find new things to do, go and discover as they say and find things adventurous things to do that aren’t going to break the bank! To go where we have never done before and to see things that will blow our minds within the confinements of our town and surrounding towns.

What do you and your partner to keep the spark alive, nothing sexual please but I would love to hear what you have to say?  Leave a comment and I’ll reply to all those that I get! If you aren’t doing a date night, why not start now, plan something simple and go for coffee first or go to the movies? You never know how much you might enjoy it!

 

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Please don’t stop the music!

Music has always played in a big role in my life and different songs have a way of reminding me of different stages in my life.

Roxette’s “It must have been love” was the first song that I ever slow- danced to with a boy in my class. When my first serious long-term boyfriend cheated on me just after high school, the song from Skunk Anansie “Hedonism (Just because it feels good)” always reminded me of him. When I hear the soundtrack to Moulin Rouge,  it always reminds me of my time in the UK when I had morning duties in the bar and would play Can Can Can full blast to motivate me to clean faster and not sit down for that hot cappuccino that was waiting for me to drink it. When I met my future hubby, the song was Ashley Simpson’s “Pieces of me” with The Parolotones “I’ll be there” as our wedding song and it brings back many memories. Kelly Rowland “Sand Castle” will always remind me of being pregnant with Bella as it was one of the only songs that I had on my phone and would play it for her while she was inside. It was also the song I sang to her just after labour and it calmed her down! You are my sunshine always reminds me of my close friends and my mother!

Moulin Rouge – love it!

This also made me think of the songs that I listened to as a child and it is only now that I have realised what I was actually singing back then and why my mother hated the words so much! Boys II Men was very popular especially “I’ll make love to you”. I used to walk around singing it at the top of my voice:

I’ll make love to you
Like you want me to
And I’ll hold you tight
Baby all through the night
I’ll make love to you
When you want me to
And I will not let go
Till you tell me to

Salt and Pepper’s “I wanna have sex Baby” was just as popular as was Shaggy’s “Wasn’t Me” with the words being the following:

But she caught me on the counter (It wasn’t me)
Saw me kissin’ on the sofa (It wasn’t me)
[another version: Saw me bangin’ on the sofa (It wasn’t me)]
I even had her in the shower (It wasn’t me)
She even caught me on camera (It wasn’t me)

Bella loves all kinds of music and loves to dance whenever she hears music. She looks so cute putting her hands up in the air, stomping her feet and running around in circles. Her favourite song at the moment is “Twinkle Twinkle Little Star” and she looooves the song “Dynamite “  from Taio Cruz This makes me wonder, what is Bella going to listen to when she is a teenager??? I love all kinds of music but I can’t stand that music where they scream into a microphone and it is labelled music! I have also noticed that more and more music is becoming sexually orientated. I understand that sex sells and you only have to turn the radio on to hear Rhiana singing about what is it actually teaching children out there? What exactly are they learning from it all? You only have to watch some reality TV programs to see how children have started dancing all provocatively to music where in the past they would not have had a clue what it was about.

Bella’s favourite song!

What can we as parents do? We can’t change the music industry but we can help our children to listen to good music that doesn’t contain a million swear words and be there for them when they have questions. The more we support them, the more they will feel comfortable talking to us about things and when the time comes for Bella to ask me what a song means, I will feel  relaxed about explaining about it. Until then I’ll keep signings at the top of my voice and encouraging Bella to sing as much as she can!

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