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The juggling balls are falling

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Today was one of those days where you realise your wings are cut, the Super Mom logo has been removed and you are just having one of those days when the 100 balls that you are juggling all seem to plop onto your head with the heaviness of a bowling ball. Each one leaves a nasty dent as it rolls to the floor. The thing with being a mom is that before you only had to worry about yourself and your partner. If you had one of these days, getting into bed with a good book, glass of wine or something stronger and staying there until you decided to get up was ok. Now with a kiddie, this seems to only be possible once they are in bed. I still have to get Bella from school, get her home, bathed and fed while playing with her and giving her “Bella Time” and then off to sleep. Once she is asleep it’s time to back her bag for school, make sure she has a bottle for later and get her school clothes ready for the next day. Only then can I start to tackle the rest of the things and then maybe get into bed at a decent time before Bella wakes up and starts looking for me!

To keep the balls in the air takes quite a bit of planning and making sure that things go according to this plan. If her baby bag isn’t packed the night before, I have to run around like a banshee to get it done in the morning which takes away some of “our” time which means Bella gets whiney and vies for my attention. This makes me even later and then I get more worried about being late etc!

So I put “Back to Sanity” plan into place! I had a big cup of coffee, took a deep breath, did  a little gig, resolved to be more efficient and felt a 100 times better! Only I can help to make it better and if it means 5 minutes less in bed, so be it! Tomorrow will hold another day and I am going to be positive that all the balls will be in the air and not stress! As they say “Bring it!”

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Just the two of us!

Today my hubby and I went on a date day instead of date night. This is when my hubby and I leave my daughter with one of her sets of grandparents for a few hours and go and spend some quality time alone. You might call it something else like couples evening or Mommy and Daddy time.

Some people might say “How can you leave your daughter alone and go and have fun?” but I find it to be a very important thing to do with Hubby. We get to spend time outside of our normal environment and have supper or lunch in a restaurant without the other person going to the play are to check on Bella and eating individually. Sometimes we go and watch a movie together and share a big tub of popcorn and afterwards go window shopping in the Mall. It helps to reconnect us again and grow our relationship as a couple because this is what existed before Bella was born.  If we don’t look after each other on a couple bases as well, it will not be good for Bella as our relationship would deteriorate and eventually we would probably end in divorce. One only realises the importance of them when you haven’t been on date night for a while.

My problem is doing different things within our time frame? Going to the movie all the time can become boring and that’s not what I want our time alone to be! So the challenge is to find new things to do, go and discover as they say and find things adventurous things to do that aren’t going to break the bank! To go where we have never done before and to see things that will blow our minds within the confinements of our town and surrounding towns.

What do you and your partner to keep the spark alive, nothing sexual please but I would love to hear what you have to say?  Leave a comment and I’ll reply to all those that I get! If you aren’t doing a date night, why not start now, plan something simple and go for coffee first or go to the movies? You never know how much you might enjoy it!

 

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Please don’t stop the music!

Music has always played in a big role in my life and different songs have a way of reminding me of different stages in my life.

Roxette’s “It must have been love” was the first song that I ever slow- danced to with a boy in my class. When my first serious long-term boyfriend cheated on me just after high school, the song from Skunk Anansie “Hedonism (Just because it feels good)” always reminded me of him. When I hear the soundtrack to Moulin Rouge,  it always reminds me of my time in the UK when I had morning duties in the bar and would play Can Can Can full blast to motivate me to clean faster and not sit down for that hot cappuccino that was waiting for me to drink it. When I met my future hubby, the song was Ashley Simpson’s “Pieces of me” with The Parolotones “I’ll be there” as our wedding song and it brings back many memories. Kelly Rowland “Sand Castle” will always remind me of being pregnant with Bella as it was one of the only songs that I had on my phone and would play it for her while she was inside. It was also the song I sang to her just after labour and it calmed her down! You are my sunshine always reminds me of my close friends and my mother!

Moulin Rouge – love it!

This also made me think of the songs that I listened to as a child and it is only now that I have realised what I was actually singing back then and why my mother hated the words so much! Boys II Men was very popular especially “I’ll make love to you”. I used to walk around singing it at the top of my voice:

I’ll make love to you
Like you want me to
And I’ll hold you tight
Baby all through the night
I’ll make love to you
When you want me to
And I will not let go
Till you tell me to

Salt and Pepper’s “I wanna have sex Baby” was just as popular as was Shaggy’s “Wasn’t Me” with the words being the following:

But she caught me on the counter (It wasn’t me)
Saw me kissin’ on the sofa (It wasn’t me)
[another version: Saw me bangin’ on the sofa (It wasn’t me)]
I even had her in the shower (It wasn’t me)
She even caught me on camera (It wasn’t me)

Bella loves all kinds of music and loves to dance whenever she hears music. She looks so cute putting her hands up in the air, stomping her feet and running around in circles. Her favourite song at the moment is “Twinkle Twinkle Little Star” and she looooves the song “Dynamite “  from Taio Cruz This makes me wonder, what is Bella going to listen to when she is a teenager??? I love all kinds of music but I can’t stand that music where they scream into a microphone and it is labelled music! I have also noticed that more and more music is becoming sexually orientated. I understand that sex sells and you only have to turn the radio on to hear Rhiana singing about what is it actually teaching children out there? What exactly are they learning from it all? You only have to watch some reality TV programs to see how children have started dancing all provocatively to music where in the past they would not have had a clue what it was about.

Bella’s favourite song!

What can we as parents do? We can’t change the music industry but we can help our children to listen to good music that doesn’t contain a million swear words and be there for them when they have questions. The more we support them, the more they will feel comfortable talking to us about things and when the time comes for Bella to ask me what a song means, I will feel  relaxed about explaining about it. Until then I’ll keep signings at the top of my voice and encouraging Bella to sing as much as she can!

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It’s that time of the year again!

As winter starts to approach, my hands start to form this odd shape and seem to come together all the time. Yes, you guess it; I am a Knitter!

I have always been creative and have enjoyed making and decorating things like bead necklaces and candles with things inside them. While living in the UK, I used to get bored with watching t.v all the time and so decided to find something to create as well as keep me busy. Queue in the world of knitting and needle work!

Head band that I made Bella

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I have made scarves (too many to count) and hats of all shapes and designs i.e. pixie hats with tassels as well but my real “inspiration” came when I found out I was pregnant with Bella. A new person to knit for and there are so many cute things out there for little girls!! So my search on Google started and I knitted a jersey, a pullover, Mary-Jane Booties and a pretty shrug for her  to wear! My poor little hands where like a T-Rex’s hands but they were completed!I do love to knit hats and have so many pretty designs that I am itching to try out but regretfully Bella doesn’t like things on her head! Oh well, I will have to find something else for her. I have also promised my hubby for the last 3 years that I will knit a jersey for him but he is so fussy so not sure which pattern to even start with for him.

Penguin to “Bedazzle” her plain top!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Let the search begin! If you know of a stunning pattern, do let me know! I will let you know how the item comes out! heehee

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Have you heard of Amber Teething Beads?

                                               Natural Relief of Baby Teething Symptoms

Have you heard of Amber Teething Beads? Amber is associated with sunlight and warmth. It is reputed to boost the immune system, reduce inflammation and accelerate the healing of wounds and thus as a natural analgesic is the perfect soother for babies and children when teething. Wearing Baltic amber close to the skin can help calm a baby without resorting to drugs.

Amber is not actually a stone therefore not cold to the touch. In reality it is fossilized tree resin from forests that were flooded by the sea millions of years ago .It is a very old custom for babies and children to wear amber in various parts of Europe and the Far East. Today we believe that the power to soothe pain attributed to amber properly lies in the fact that it creates an electromagnetic field which enhances the human frame of mind

Amber teething necklaces are suitable from about 3-4 months of age and the colour of the teething necklaces depends on the style and can be white, honey, butterscotch, cherry or a mix of colours and is polished stones.

Each necklace is approximately 32cm long and has a screw clasp. The screw clasp itself is a safety feature and is the weakest point of the necklace, and will break if undue strain is placed upon it. This is a design feature to protect against choking if the necklace is pulled  too hard. As an additional safety feature, there is a knot before and after each bead so that in the event of it being broken, there is no risk of choking on the beads. We recommend taking the necklace off whenever your baby will be without close supervision as the onus is on the parents to ensure their child’s safety.

Please contact  Marieta on 084 587 7292 or mypoppelap@gmail.com  to find out more about this amazing product at the affordable price of R170 per necklace.

 

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Are you packing?

When you are dieting, 10kg is a lot of weight to lose but when you are packing for a 17 month old child to go on an international trip, 10kg seems very little!! 10kg is what Bella was allowed to take as her check-in luggage for our trip to Dubai to visit my sister Jessica. I was not told what we would be doing as she had arranged our itinerary so I wasn’t even sure what clothes to pack!!!

Now to be honest, I am not the best packer in the world and have been known to throw things into a suitcase and just to go. My hubby refuses to allow me to back his bags as he says that it doesn’t come out looking the same on the other side! It’s not for a lack of trying; I just don’t have the patience to fold things in an immaculate way.

So it was left to me to pack Bella’s case as I would “know” what she would need! The basics are a no brainer but clothes? Whenever we go away people always tell us how hot it is and about the lovely weather they are having and then we get there and it starts to rain or gets cold! I have therefore learnt to pack everything but the kitchen sink for her but to fit it all into 10kg, I had to think carefully!  I packed her own brand of formula as she is on soya and I didn’t want to have to sit with her having stomach cramps from a new formula -1.8kg gone. Packed all her medicines like cough mixture, vapour rub, thermometer, fever medicine and teething gels as I can’t read Arabic and I don’t want to be running around for a pharmacy at 02:00 if she gets sick as I won’t know where to start looking! This happened to a friend in Tunisia when she got food poisoning and her boyfriend took 4 hours to find a pharmacy as all the people he spoke to could not speak English! Not for me thanks! That took another chunk out of the 10kg!!

I then had to pack her clothes but this took a while to decide on what to pack! Bella wanted to be part of the packing and everything I folded something; she would help by taking it out and plonking it on the floor! She missed the crucial part that I was actually folding! So to “include” her I got her another suitcase and gave her some clothes to pack into it and this kept her busy while I packed like Speedy Gonzales! Warm tops and jackets in case it was cold, shorts and leggings, costumes, sun block, t-shirts and some pretty dresses in case we went to something fancy.  As I didn’t know what we were going to do, I did it on instinct.

Needless to say, I managed to get her clothes suitcase packed and stowed away before she could start unpacking it and I worried about the weight! I didn’t have money to pay for overweight bags! Then I started on her toy bag and baby bag for the plane. This was going to be her first time flying on a plane and I did a lot of research on what to take for kids and how to keep them busy but this didn’t mean that it would work for her! I packed her baby bag as I would normally but put in extra nappies in case of delays or long queues at Customs. My sister had bought her nappies in Dubai so luckily I didn’t have to pack all her nappies and I must say this helped a lot! What would keep her busy on a plane in a confined space??? I packed all her favourite toys as well as lots of stickers as these entertain her quite well at the moment and she seems to enjoy them.

Once Bella’s suitcase and bags were done, it was onto my suitcases and anything that didn’t fit into Bella’s suitcase, came into mine. I could take 23kg and my suitcase weighed 3kg so I had to pack really carefully. Once all the bags were packed, I just had to wait till the flight as there was nothing else I could do! I have learnt a little trick and most of my family and friends think I am nuts, but it works really well! If you go to the airport really early and check in 3 hours instead of 2 hours as is the norm for international flights and be super friendly to the Ground Staff of the airline, they tend to look the other way when your suitcase is a little overweight. Get there later and they tend to be fussier and you either have to pay for the luggage or take it out! Needless to say, Bella’s suitcase weighed 9.3kg and mine, well mine was a whopping 14.5kg!!!! J This I can assure you would not be the case when I came home! What happened next? Well you will have to read the next blog to find out!

A review on the fab Oh-Lief products!

Oh-Lief in English means Oh Love and after using these products, it is love!

 

I used to be interested by natural products but since becoming a mom, I read every label and try to make sure that everything I use for Bella is as healthy as I can get it. Also as Bella has allergies, I have to be careful as to what I use on her.

I found Oh-Lief at a baby expo that I went to and it is fantastic with so many uses for it! Made by a mom and her sister using a family recipe and only natural products, these ladies have a winning formula. I have used the Oh-Lief Olive Baby Wax as lip balm for us both when our lips are chapped, used it when Bella has a case of eczema or dry skin and found that it made my skin softer and lovely without a sticky residue or any odors. It has even entertained Bella in the bank while we had to wait in the queue, and she rubbed it all over herself much to the delight of the people around us!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Oh-Lief also runs a program whereby moms can bring back their used tubs to be refilled at their store at The Old Biscuit Mill inWoodstockand only use local products to decrease their carbon footprint! If you are conscious of the environment as well as your little one, you can’t go wrong using their products!

This is their story:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Who are the ‘we’ in Oh-lief, Christine Buchanan, mother of young Liam, and Louiza Rademan, sister and proud aunt. We were brought up in a family that valued the principals of a green and organic life style and our love of all things natural has certainly influenced our decisions in establishing our Oh-lief brand. Christine could not find a skincare range for babies, or for her self when she was pregnant, that she felt confident enough to use. We then decided to develop our current family recipes in to a full baby range, based on 100% raw natural ingredients, and hence, Oh-lief was born. Our name originated from the main ingredient in the Oh-lief waxes, which is Olive oil. Oh-lief is a word -play on Olive and the ‘lief’ represent our love for nature and eco-friendly products.

And Moms haven’t been forgotten, have a look at their range for adults as well!

For more information on products and what is in their range, have a look at their  webstite www.ohlief.com for stockists or contact them at info@ohlief.com to get a price list and place an order!

 

 

 

 

 

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My car is gone and so are my wings!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My hubby has been away from home for two days. I was in a car accident with Bella the day day that he left and my other baby has been towed to be assessed and fixed. This means that I don’t have a car!

Talk about having your wings clipped! I have become so independent and just go when I want to go and do what I want to do that I am finding this to be quite frustrating. For example, my mom had to drive us girls around today to get all the tasks and shopping done before we go on our trip to Dubai next week.  I also have a very big sushi craving at the moment and all I can think of is those bite size salmon roses melting in my mouth and the salmon Californian rolls soaked in soya sauce! If I had a car and Bella wasn’t napping, I would have been at my local sushi place, which happens to be having a 50% off sale, so fast that you would think that my car is made by Batman.  I would drive safely of course!

If you are a stay at home mommy and don’t have transport, this could be just as frustrating as you have to rely on others for lifts and I know from personal experience that I started to feel bad about asking all the time and would eventually walk or just not go out. This in itself is also not a good thing! This brings me to the thought that in the town I stay, public transport isn’t very accessible unless you have the money to pay for a meter taxi to take you from point A to point B. You can take the bus between towns but this is often unreliable and with a kid with you, can be quite nerve racking.

So what can be done? Is there a way around this for stay at home moms?  The answer to my car problem will come hopefully on Monday or Tuesday as to what is going to become of my beloved Skille a.k.a my car. I hope its good news as I’m not sure how long I can do this for!

 

 

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Do you remember the words?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I can tell you just about every word to the song “If you liked it then you should have put a ring on it” by Beyonce but ask me the words to Old Mother Hubbart and the chorus will go “umm ooh , la la la”! I am discovering that as a Mom, I am supposed to know the words to these nursery rhymes, especially when Bella comes home and sings them!

I think that as we get older we tend to forget the little things that made us tick as kids. Well not everything; I still love to dance in the rain and lick the batter off the bowl when I have baked a cake! You will also have to fight me for space on a jumping castle and when it comes to candy floss, beware, I have an international license to eat it all! I still love to climb trees but I do think twice before taking any old tree on as I’m not the weight I was as a little girl! I used to love nothing more than to take a book and climb high into a tree and read there for hours on end.

Bouncing around with Bella!

When Bella, Rick and I are out and about, I have often noticed the children that walk in a row in a shop or have their hands behind their backs when looking at something as their mom said “don’t touch”. I couldn’t help myself once and although the mom gave me the Evil Eye, the smile on the little girls face outshone it! She was looking at a beautiful little fairy with the most amazing wings and I could see her pulling on her fingers as they were clasped behind her back. I went over to her and picked it up and we looked at it “together”. Who needed a MasterCard right then?

Bella “driving” her car!

The point I am trying to make is when did we forget what it feels like to be children? When we didn’t care what people thought of us and so what if there was strawberry jam in our hair!  When baking was mud pies and make up was the stuff that you would “decorate” your friends faces with. How does one get back to that point? Simple I would say. Do something once a day that you used to do as a child or better yet, do it with your child! Go and remember the words to the songs! Who knows the stress from the Rat Race or your day might just dissolve with the laughter that you will be surrounded by! Hmm…. my act for the day; to raid the treat cupboard while my hubby isn’t looking!

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Where have all the elves gone?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The brothers Grimm wrote a fantastic story about a shoemaker that would cut out the leather for the shoes to be made the next day and he would wake up the next day, there would be beautiful shoes already made on his counter. He eventually found that it was little elves that would make the shoes for him?

Where have these elves gone? Seriously, I think they have become an endangered species!!! . I remember as a kid waking up and finding new shoes and I would be all amazed and wear them everywhere! Now that I am older I realise that it was my parents that bought the shoes! Now that I Buy Bella’s shoes I suppose that I am now an elf!

 

How cute are these!

I would like an instruction manual from these little elves on how to get her to wear the shoes! Some of them are so cute but not a chance of her putting them on! Then again I am known for being barefoot most of the time so maybe this rubbed off on her! We recently took her to Ackermans and for the first time ever, she pointed at shoes she like, let us put them on her and she ran around the shop showing people her “new” shoes! After picking our jaws up from the ground, we bought the shoes for her and she wore them for the rest of the day! Fast forward to 3 days later when I wanted to put them on again, not a chance! Nothing had changed, the shoes where still exactly the same shoes! Bella also has quite big feet, at 16 months she is a size 4 ½ which she gets from her daddy! Um ok maybe from me too as I am a size 7.

Bella’s new shoes

This is another area that I would like to discuss with those little elves. I’m not one for shoes and my hubby has to drag me to buy shoes and try to persuade me to buy them as I try to persuade Bella to put hers on. It’s not that I don’t like shoes; I am just not prepared to spend hundreds of Rands on a pair of shoes when I can buy so many other things for the same price. But if I find a pair I like, then it is normally love at first sight and if I don’t buy them, they will plague me forever! Like the pair of blue satin high heels that my friend Nicolene wore for her wedding. Or those crimson red stilettos that have just made their way into Luella.  Had it not been for Bella, I would have bought them on the spot but I find that running after her or following her around in shops in stilettos does tend to increase ones heart rate and decrease your medical aid savings. The problem that I find and is why I want to talk to the elves, is that if I find a pair of shoes I like, it is normally in smaller sizes and the bigger sizes are all gone. Are those little elves anti-big foot people? We are people too you know! I say this with a big smile on my face as I can see a campaign starting; “bring back our shoes Elves”! I wonder if Patricia de Lille will be interested in my cause?

Stunning shoes!

I suppose I should just keep looking, I will find the bigger shoes eventually and instead of looking for the little elves, I will read Bella the story and introduce her to the fairy tale. Maybe this will encourage her to wear them or maybe I should just start wearing more shoes! Hmmm those red pumps at Woolworths are speaking elf, maybe I should go and introduce myself!

 

 

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Getting a child Passport!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What do you need?

To get a passport for a child, you need to have the following:

  • Two colour passport photos (they want a photo with the child not smiling but do accept with smiles)
  • Mother’s I.D
  • Father’s I.D
  • Birth Certificate of child
  • Application form which you get at the Department of Home Affairs
  • A black pen
  • Mother, Father and child must be there in person when applying for the passport

The two most important things, besides the above are the following:

  1. Go early in the morning
  2. Take toys

If one of you can’t  make it to the Department of Home Affairs, whom ever can’t make it will have to write a letter stating their name, I.D number, and saying that they give xyz permission to get a passport for their child on their behalf and state why they could not make it. Both the letter and a copy of their I.D has to be certified by the SAPS and handed in by the person doing the application. The forms for the application you can get at the Department of Home Affairs and they do not allow you to leave with the forms. I have seen that you can get it off their website but it does not look the same as the form that you get at there.

How much does it cost?

At present, the prices are as follows but please note that they are subject to change:

Re-issue of abridged birth certificate                               R20

Unabridged birth certificate                                               R75

Child Passport                                                                       R400

What is the difference between an Unabridged birth certificate and an Abridged birth certificate?

An Abridged birth certificate that you get when your child is born and this contains only the mothers name and ID numbers and does not mention the father. An Unabridged birth certificate is contains details of both the mother and father and their I.D Details. The main reason to have the Unabridged birth certificate is that for many foreign countries, it is a visa requirement if you plan to travel overseas. They want to see who the parents are and also it is to protect the child should there be any custody battles. For example, if you want to take your child overseas without the other parent, you have to get a certified letter and copy of their I.D/passport from the other parent that they give permission for you to take the child out of the country. The Unabridged birth certificate can take 6 to 8 weeks to do so it is best to get it as soon as possible, even if you don’t have plans to travel as you never know when a good special will come about!

Get one, you never know when you are going to need it!

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Finding More time for working moms

Ways to have more time as a working mom?

As a working mom there are so many that have to be juggled. Here is some tips on how to keep them all in the air and find some time for…..cappucinos and relaxing!

Household chores

Instead of spending a whole day, which tends to be our day off or on weekends, clean a bit of your house or flat everyday so that by the time the weekend comes, your house is clean

Plan, shop and buy for meals for the whole week and take one afternoon or evening, I usually find Sundays easier, and cook meals for each night of the week. Put them into containers, label the containers and put them in the freezer. Then instead of spending time trying to cook with your little one vying for your attention, all you will have to do is pop it into the microwave or oven and you can spend more time with your child and partner instead.

Rope your partner in to share the responsibility of the household. Most modern men are pretty good with this but sometimes don’t realise just exactly how much pressure is on us moms. Make up a chore list, stick it on the fridge and alternate as needed. This will help to share the load. If your partner is one of those people that don’t believe in helping, contact me and I can give you some good tips on getting them to help. If I had to put them here it would give the game away would it not?

Pre-school, crèche and day care

Packing your childs bags for school the night before will save you a lot of time in the morning. Put the bag at the door, in the car or somewhere that you will remember to look. If you want to pack snacks that have been in the fridge, pop them in the bag in the morning. This will give you some more time to do something else. If you have bottles to wash, wash most of them the night before as well and then you only have one to wash in the morning!

Put a list of your childs activities on your fridge or scan and email them to yourself . You can then load them into your calendar on your phone or computer with a reminder and this will help to combat baking cookies at 01:00 because you forgot about the bake sale the following day!

Animal Crackers!

Getting ready for work

Some kids can be quite understanding about their moms getting ready for work, others not so. Put some toys in a box or fill containers with things that your child can fiddle with while you get ready. Talk to them while you dress and this will show that them that they still have your attention and might give you a few free minutes to do your make-up and things that you need to do.

In the car

Always have an “emergency work supply” kit in the car. Mine contains a mascaras, hairbrush, eyeshadow,  foundation, wet wipes, nappies, bum cream and an extra pair of shoes that can match with all my clothes. I have these for those days when I am in a rush and forget to put mascara on or get distracted and forget to brush my hair. It is also handy to have spare baby/toddler things in the car as if you are going elsewhere after picking your child up, you don’t always know what is left from the day at school. It can cause some interesting moments when you think there are nappies left, your little one makes a no.2 and you realise in the changing room that there are no nappies left! Been there and done that and I can assure you it can change your plans quite a bit! Be prepared is what I say! I recently also saw the importance of this when a fellow mom at creche, had her little one puke all over her…she had 20 minutes to get him to his Gran’s house, get changed and had a meeting in 20 minutes……..

All in all look for those little things to make your day that little bit sweeter and less dramatic! Good Luck Mommy

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