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Writing has and always will be a therapeutic way for me to deal with stuff. Mom stuff, life stuff and just general stuff that happens. The problem comes in when I stop writing and you may have noticed I have not done so for a while. Enter Confusion

Right now I am more confused than a budgie that got caught in a snow Which way is up and which way is down? Or in my case, what is the right route to take. My heart says one thing and my brain says another and so we have gotten to the Confusion Crossroads…oh joy! Why can life not be more simple? Boy meets girl, they fall in love the end. Now adays dating is so bloody confusing and if you have a kid add another whole ball game to the sphere. Lord have mercy! I don’t need a man, I want a man and that is a very big difference! I can be full of shit and demanding, I admit to that, I don’t deny it for a minute but falling for someone now adays  can hurt like a thousand needles in one’s bum….aka Confusion. The Stubborn Abbi is up in arms, the Love Child Abbi is in the cupboard crying, the Warrior Abbi is ready to prove herself and the Sensitive Abbi has taken over and we fear for our sanity!

The thing is relationships are always going to have their ups and downs. There is no perfect relationship and anyone that says there is has their heads in the clouds and need to come back to earth. One thing a relationship needs is communication and without it well you might as well pack up shop. This refers to any kind of relationship be it friendship or love. Both people need to fight for the other, can’t have one doing all the work.  I admit, since getting divorced I am a Runner and a Pusher. A Runner is someone that has very high and strong walls around their hearts. Shit gets too real and on comes the takkies and we are outta there in a dust cloud. Relationship done, alt control delete goodbye. A Pusher is reformed Runner that now and then pushes the other person away to see if they will come back or fight for you when they get too close. Everyone else left so what makes this one so different?  I “may” have a few commitment issues….just putting it out there…..But strangely this time I did get freaked out and gave the shoes a little wash and “may” have pushed a few times but I stayed. That in itself scared the crap out of me because I do not get close to guys in that way. Friends yes but dating or relationships of any love kind, oh no honey, bly weg! I don’t want a Prince Charming or Mr Right on a horse coming to save me.  In the beginning when I did start to panic, a friend said take a chance, you never know and so I did. Seems the last push pushed too far and now I am back in the dating pool…God help us! I’ve been very hurt, angry and miserable the past few days but since writing this, I’ve realized that a lot of the confusion is directed at myself. How did I let a man get so close, I’ve never done that before?  The walls will now be built so high that the Eiffel Tower will look like an ant!

And in comes Confusion! Once you have broken down concrete walls, how do you build them up again? Once you have shown someone the inside of you that you never let any other man see, not even your ex-husband, how the hell do you fix it? Unfortunately for some I am not one of those women that look for the nearest “warm lyfie” to fix the hole as I feel you end up hurting yourself more. I hate the saying “Time heals all wounds”..I’m too impatient for that, I want it now but that my dear friends is also a fairytale. Worst is, I miss him, our silly random conversations and play fighting. And so I will live with the confusion, build the wall brick by brick with the strongest form of concrete possible and no man will ever see that part of me again. It will remain mine and I refuse to show it to anyone (Stubborn Abbi is back). Do I still believe in hope? Ask me at a later stage because right now the jury is out on that one.


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Whirlwind and hospitals

What a whirlwind of a day that included the hospital! Tonight calls for a facemask, glass of wine and a big bubble bath! I had to fetch Bella from school early to take her to the nurse, then the doctor and finally the Radiology department at the local hospital for a suspected appendicitis! Thank the Lord she was ok and it wasn’t too serious but my poor nerves are shot! Little Miss has been driving me slightly crazy the past two weeks as she misses her dad who relocated last year. Being around other dads and their daughters can be very hard for her and guess who she turns to as her emotional punching bag…me! I can understand it but even my patience gets tested and depending on the time of the month, I have a lot of it. Daddy is here for business for two days and so B had gone to visit there (last night) and tonight. I must say, seeing him and chatting to him at the hospital was actually nice, no fighting or being rude and it wasn’t about other issues but B. She loved it as well, she often asks when the three of us will go do something but like I have explained to her, it isn’t going to happen.

As you probably know I am going through this get fit/reasonably healthy eating (she hides McD’s wrapper under bed)  phase and I’ve lost more weight! The turkey skin under my arms is starting to firm up and I may have biceps by the end of the year. However, there is more to this development. I love Garnier’s Caffeine Eye roller thingy that de-puffs the bags under your eyes and if you are a night owl like me, makes the black circles under your eyes seem less like the colour of a tyre. One catch, they no longer make it. Sigh. So I have been on a mission to try to find a de-puffer. B also has this fungus that seems to get worse with over the counter creams and lotions.

Before and during..
Before and during..

Enter brainwave whirlwind…Pinterest….How to get rid of fungus naturally/create an de-puffer eye cream…Pin… I am happy to say that I have found a recipe that will work for B (lavender oil, coconut oil, shea butter, jojoba oil and coconut oil, blend and use) to get rid of the fungus. While doing this I read up on the uses of jojoba oil and decided to give it a try. There are two products that I do not skimp on, one is moisturizer and the other is eye cream. There is a reason that people think I look 27 when I’m 33. So I decided to give the jojoba oil a try. Morning I use my normal creams and at night I rub a drop or two of jojoba oil and rub it into my face and neck. The difference is quite remarkable! My skin feels clearer, softer and just better. I’ve also started to exfoliate twice a week which is also helping a lot!

So wish me luck on my quest for a de-puffer eye cream, if I get the recipe I that works and I like, I will post it !


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Facemask that beat me


Nothing like a good old facemask to make one feel good and happy! Also a good facemask can make you look amazing!

A few people have told me that I look 27/28 and this is great especially when you are 33! Granted I have learnt to take better care of my skin and my body as a whole and I am 6kg away from being the weight I was when I met my ex husband 10 years ago! I also have Bobbi Brown’s free makeup classes to thank but I’m going on a tangent here. So back to the story about the facemask.

As you might know, I LOVE Pinterest and have a board with homemade scrubs, masks etc. So I found one which helps to take away impurities on your skin. It’s pretty simple and made of gelatin and milk. The website warns that you should not put the facemask on your eyebrows as it can pull them out…Little old me goes “Seriously?” but ok noted. So I follow the directions, put on the facemask and wait the prescribed time. My face looks I have cling film wrapped around it as it dries but ok, they said it was good…..Then I had to take it off slowly and carefully. Well let me just tell you that I must have said every swear word possible in my head as I took it off. I think every little hair that was on my face came off at that exact moment! My face was so red it looked like I had taken a layer of skin physically off and add the fact that I had red hair..I looked like a little red troll!  Granted it did work and I shuddered to think what would have happened if I had gotten it on my eyebrows! A new brand of wax maybe? I would not recommend it as wax though!!! It won’t deter me from using other facesmasks and I am already planning my next scrub to make from ground coffee granules (you can get the directions here)

coffee scrub

Have a look on my board if you want some ideas to try and if they give a caution with the facemask/scrub etc. then pay attention to it, unless you want to have no eyebrows!

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Cowgirl and scales

I realized this evening that I have not blogged in a while and that posting them in my head doesn’t exactly count…This month I’ve been a Cowgirl!

Lately there has been a show down happening. Let me set the scene: imagine a hot dessert town, the wind blowing and ladies gathering their children in their skirts to keep them away from danger. Two cowgirls approach each other, one with skinny jeans, a cowboy hat and a tight corset, the other round with stubby legs and digital eyes. They call the stubby girl “The Scale” and the other girl Abbi. Cue music and men coming out of bars to see the commotion. Abbi draws and shoots “The Scale” right between the eyes so that it drops 7kg off its figures but not before it takes a shot and hits the buttons on Abbi’s corset and out pops what was left of her tummy! Yes the scale and I have been fighting lately but I have managed to loose 7kgs. At the moment I’m on the 28 day diet and to be honest I’ve cheated so much I make an American politician look trustworthy! But all good things come to those that wait so I’m going to keep working on it.

Cowgirl takes on The Scale

I also fell head over heads for a cute boy with a cute smile and then found my feet. You win some you loose some but at least one learns…

B and I have been having some interesting adventures i.e we went camping and did some really Mommy and Me things. Lately though I have been a bit distracted with other things happening and she has been such a trooper about it! #Lovemykid!

Right that’s an update for now, I kinda got over what was stopping my blog before so it should get better now!

Sleep tight!


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Christmas with Groupon

Christmas is around the corner and finding time to go to the shops has been a mission for me! Luckily there is Groupon!

They have a wide variety of things and I love the fact that the prices are so reasonable!

If you are looking for gifts for her – Groupon has spa treatments, a studio photoshoot, wine tours, romantic dining experiences and much more. To find more deals for her, look here!

Groupon Spa

Want to spoil hubby or boyfriend this festive season? Groupon has amazing deals that won’t break the bank. Treat him to a beer tasting and tour at Stellenbrau Brewery. If he is a bit of an adrenaline junky, Groupon offers shark cage diving, a supercar driving experience or a zipline tree-top slide for him and his friends to enjoy.

Groupn beer tasting


Find more deals for him here!

Have your little ones been naughty or nice this year? Groupon has a selection of gifts for kids such as two hours of go karting at Berg Toys, Cool runnings day pass and so much more.

groupon kids

Find more gifts for kids here!

I really like the idea of the idea of rock climbing!

Have fun!!!

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Col’Cacchio Pizzeria review

As you might have noticed, I haven’t blogged for a while. Its not for a lack of ideas, trust me I write a blog post most mornings on the way to work in my head. It is purely for a lack of time!

So it was nice for to have some Me time and go out with a girlfriend and have lunch! Oh and were we in for a treat. We went to Col’Cacchio Pizzeria at Canal Walk to test the Aegean Pizza that is part of the Col’Cacchio Pizzeria Celebrity Chef Series. This is an amazing initiative whereby money is donated from the sales of the pizza to charity! Not many companies doing this!

Col'Cacchio Pizzeria
Col’Cacchio Pizzeria

I had the Aegean pizza with a hummus base with mozzarella, spinach, feta, miso cured lamb, Peppadew® Piquanté Peppers, tahini mayo , phyllo flakes created by Jabu Mahlangu (Former Bafana Bafana, Orlando Pirates and Kaizer Chiefs midfielder) and Ivor Jones (Head Chef Ivor Jones manages the day to day operations of ever award winning The Test Kitchen).

Col'Cacchio Pizzeria
Col’Cacchio Pizzeria

The tahini mayo was delicious and the lamb was juicy and tender. The pizza was a little dry but I enjoyed it. My friend had a half and half pizza with deboned ribs and corn on the one side and chicken curry on the other which was scrumptious!

Col’Cacchio Pizzeria
Col’Cacchio Pizzeria

The nice thing about Col’Cacchio Pizzeria is that they also do wheat free and banting pizza and other food options! So you can have your pizza and not worry about the extra carbs!

My friend had the chocolate brownies and ice-cream and I tasted some of it. Oh My Word! Talk about wiping drool off one’s face! I had the banting cheesecake and while it was nice, after tasting the brownies, nothing can compare!

Col’Cacchio Pizzeria
Col’Cacchio Pizzeria

We had really great service, the plates were clean, food was hot and it was a very relaxing atmosphere! I would definitely recommend going there again! Have a look at their website to find a store close to you! Hmm now I feel like pizza


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Free Instagram photo frame


Instagram photo frames

I decided to make a challenge for myself and my creativity so I came up with the following. I’m going to make at least one thing from each of the pins on my Pinterest board! Inexpensive,healthy or  pretty things that can be used for either myself, B or whomever I think it will be suited for!

I came across this pin on Pinterest  from the wonderful ladies at Sisters Suit Case Blog and I really liked it. I decided to make it and it was pretty easy!  It is from my Free Printable Board. It looks really effective when it is up!

Free Instagram photo frame

What you’ll need:


  • Print the PDF
  • Scissors
  • Glue
  • Photographs

How do to it:


  • Print the pages and cut them out. Put your photographs on the cutouts and cut them to size.
  • Glue the photographs onto the printouts
  • Voila! You are done!

Easy hey!? Enjoy!


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Elena Kalis

In a few weeks time I am turning 32. 32. Now some of you might be saying that is still young, but to me, calendar wise, I feel over the hill while in spirit I’m 24!

People always tell me I look younger than 31 so I’m making sure that it stays that way. I dress the way I want to and I have started a beauty regime to make me feel better and look better! My hair is growing and I feel healthy! Bring on 32 heehee.

I have to tell you! I found a new photographer whose photographs are amazing! Her name is Elena Kalis and she takes wonderful underwater shots! I found them on Pinterest and you can see them  here! The blog post picture and this one are two of her photographs:

Elena Kalis

As I mentioned before, this is the year of change. I’ve signed up for a  role in a play, I’m entering in the Spar 10km Woman’s Race, I am planning a hike and a few other things that are going to make this year interesting! Somehow I have also agreed to do the 21km Two Oceans next year….. this from a couch potato…..

I feel happier and more like me than I have in a while. I dress more like I want to and the holiday I recently had with my family has really helped to recharge my batteries and ground me again! I am on a diet and although I cheat now and then (cough cough) I’ve lost 2.8kg and I hope to be a specific weight for my birthday! All this exercise, namely Zumba, has also made me feel better about how I look. It is also a fun bonding thing for B and I as we do it together! She knows how to wiggle her legs and even has a favorite song now!

I have also changed a few things regarding B and we are going from strength to strength! She is growing up so fast and I love her more than anything in the world! I looked at her the other day and thought “Where has the time gone, you are growing up so quickly?” Super cutey pie!

It is also the year that I am no longer going to be taking shit from people and I have cut out one or two people that I felt I didn’t need to be around as they were not adding any value to my life. I’m very easy going but when you have crossed my line, please do not pass go and do not let the door hit you on the ass as you leave it.  With one person, my tolerance has been pushed to the limit and I am done!

Well little blog, I’m off to bed, tomorrow is going to be another crazy day at the office and I need to bake a chocolate cake for a friend when I get home…lead me not into temptation…but I said I would so I will pretend that the caramel treat is made of slime and deliver the cake to him with all of it on. Ok so I promise to try! Heehee!


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There comes a time in your life when you will come to a crossroad and though there are signposts indicating different directions, you will never really know what is down that road until you take the path. Sometimes you think you are going to end up with a chocolate sundae and instead you get a bowl of fruit. Though they have different flavours, essentially both are sweet. I have realised that what you think will break you and bring you to your knees, sometimes makes you realise how much strength you really have.

If you had told me that I would be in the place I am, within myself, 6 months ago, I would have told you that you are having a laugh or taking the mickey. I thought I was going to get the chocolate sundae and for a while I had that but now I have the fruit and you know what, I’m actually enjoying it and it isn’t as bad as I thought it would be. I’ve gone from being a married woman with a partner to raise a child with to being a single mom trying to figure out how to do this alone. And I used to think that I would not make it. What the hell do I know about being a single mom but you know what, I’m doing a pretty good job! There are days when it seems a bit much and I think “what are you doing!!!”  but then I look at B and I remember that we are there to learn from each other. This little munchkin has taught me so much over these past few months, as I have taught her. I realised that I am her chocolate sundae; I am the path that she was meant to go down. With guidance from above, I have somehow managed to get us through the divorce and life after it, with help from people who love us.  I have a little girl that people comment on how clever she is and how grown up she is but she is still a little child who loves to swim with her mom, ride her bike, build puzzles and who now   takes turns with me to read stories to each other. This amazing little girl who loves to wear her “ballerina” skirt and loves to cuddle up with me is in essence, my chocolate sundae. She has my heart and will always not matter what. I’ve taught her how to say “sorry” and if we have a disagreement about something, she will say sorry and put her little arms around me and tell me how much she loves me so I must be doing something right.

It is my birthday in about 10 days and I will be turning 31. That figure just makes me think of being over the hill but 31 is not 30. I survived being 30. I had a year with parts that will never be repeated but some very good parts too. I made new friendships, learnt so much about myself and found parts of me that I didn’t know existed. 31 is a year filled with goals to achieve, races to walk, mountains to climb and a few other things that I plan to do before the year is finished. As one friend says, I can be pretty stubborn and I plan on achieving these goals and doing them well because the only person that can stop me from doing them is myself. I have soooo much to be grateful for and there is so many adventures that are still going to be made.

2014 will be the year of change and 31 will be nothing but a number in the scheme of things but these two numbers are going to symbolise great things that are to come. Watch this space!

Perspectives change

Today two things happened to me that have changes my perspectives/perspective on so many things and I believe that they could not have come at a better time. The one involved cousins of mine that I saw today who are here due to the most horrific situation that they found themselves in and another was 3 quotes that I read.

Their situation was of life and death and as I looked at their children I realised how silly and trivial some things that have been happening in my life have been. I am a firm believer in that people come into your life for a reason and go again when they have fulfilled their purposes. These two showed me exactly that! I think that God sent them to teach me a lesson and boy oh boy am I listening!

The other was 3 quotes that I read and to tell you the truth, once I had read them, it was like a light bulb had gone on. I didn’t realise what they meant at first but once I read them again, it was like they were burned into my memory.  They made me realise a few things and I think that I have a few more things to think about but wow! I needed them! For the past few weeks I have been feeling like something is going to happen but could not put my finger on it. Each day has had me looking and wondering what it is that date is because something is going to happen and maybe today, 21 December 2013 is exactly that day!

I am so looking forward to the New Year and I can’t wait for the new things that are going to happen. Change is good and well I can tell you everything, rest assured that 2014 will not be a repeat of 2013. Keep an eye out for my “to do list”, you might be surprised!

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I cheated on my New Year’s Resolutions!








Oh little blog space how I have missed you! Having been on holiday in the a place with internet signal that makes an tortoise seem fast, I gave up writing so that I could save my sanity and not destroy the dongle from banging it against the wall.

Today is the 1 January 2013 and I can’t believe that we are in 2013 already! Happy New Years to you and your family! I hope it’s a fab one! Like everyone around me I too have made New Year’s Resolutions and while I eat my salt and vinegar chips and drink my vodka and coke, I can already draw a thin line, in pencil, in one of my resolutions which is to lose weight. Yes that’s right; I cheated on my New Year’s Resolutions. I’m actually just going to reschedule it to start on Monday so that it starts on a right note and not in the middle of the week. I don’t know about you but these holidays and Christmas time have added extra “baggage” for me to take into the New Year and how I wish now that I didn’t have that trifle or chocolate mousse.  Thing is that one doesn’t think of those things (I’m not a normal pudding eater) at the time and when other people cook you yummy food that you don’t normally make for yourself, it’s hard to say no!

The start of the New Year and the end of the holidays also means that I have to face up to realities and start sorting out my life so that by 5 Jan everything will be in place and arranged. Catching up on emails and sorting out posts and all the general nitty gritty parts of life. This is one of my New Year’s Resolutions and it won’t take that long to do but always good to have a deadline date so that it gets done! Someone actually asked me what I want to do this year and while I have quite a few ideas running through the grey matter in my head, I should eventually put them on paper so that I can add them to my goal chart on my wall and “do them”. I find that I actually do things if I am reminded about them visually so made a cool chart from one that I found on Pinterest.

I start work this week again and while I might not struggle so much as I have been up most mornings between 05:30-06:30 with Bella who doesn’t understand that Mommy wants to sleep late, I am definitely going to miss my hubby and spending time with Bella. Things will go back to routine and school etc and to be honest I am slightly sad about that as I would love to spend more time with Bella during the week during unroutine things. Big hug to all the other moms and dads out there that are going back to work, I feel your pain!

Do you have any New Year’s Resolutions?  Feel free to let me know!

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Win a vinyl sticker from Bella B Decor SA








You could win this cute giraffe vinyl sticker from Bella B Decor SA! It is so cute and will be wonderful to decorate any room or as a gift for a friend! You can have a look at their wonderful website where you can see a wonderful range of products that they do from Wall Art to home and children décor! Choose from their wide range of wall art and turn an old and boring room into something chic and trendy. Bella B Wall Art can be used in any room. Offices, Living rooms, Lounges, Kitchens, Bedrooms and even Bathrooms!

To enter you need to like their Facebook page and say that Baby Bugs ‘n Berries sent you, comment on my blog  and share this post on Facebook. If you refer someone to both pages tell them to say your name and Baby Bugs ‘n Berries sent y ou and  you get an extra entry and another one if they leave a blog comment! Entries close on the 6 December and unfortunately at the moment it is only open to residents of SA.

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