Music has always played in a big role in my life and different songs have a way of reminding me of different stages in my life.
Roxette’s “It must have been love” was the first song that I ever slow- danced to with a boy in my class. When my first serious long-term boyfriend cheated on me just after high school, the song from Skunk Anansie “Hedonism (Just because it feels good)” always reminded me of him. When I hear the soundtrack to Moulin Rouge, it always reminds me of my time in the UK when I had morning duties in the bar and would play Can Can Can full blast to motivate me to clean faster and not sit down for that hot cappuccino that was waiting for me to drink it. When I met my future hubby, the song was Ashley Simpson’s “Pieces of me” with The Parolotones “I’ll be there” as our wedding song and it brings back many memories. Kelly Rowland “Sand Castle” will always remind me of being pregnant with Bella as it was one of the only songs that I had on my phone and would play it for her while she was inside. It was also the song I sang to her just after labour and it calmed her down! You are my sunshine always reminds me of my close friends and my mother!
This also made me think of the songs that I listened to as a child and it is only now that I have realised what I was actually singing back then and why my mother hated the words so much! Boys II Men was very popular especially “I’ll make love to you”. I used to walk around singing it at the top of my voice:
I’ll make love to you
Like you want me to
And I’ll hold you tight
Baby all through the night
I’ll make love to you
When you want me to
And I will not let go
Till you tell me to
Salt and Pepper’s “I wanna have sex Baby” was just as popular as was Shaggy’s “Wasn’t Me” with the words being the following:
But she caught me on the counter (It wasn’t me)
Saw me kissin’ on the sofa (It wasn’t me)
[another version: Saw me bangin’ on the sofa (It wasn’t me)]
I even had her in the shower (It wasn’t me)
She even caught me on camera (It wasn’t me)
Bella loves all kinds of music and loves to dance whenever she hears music. She looks so cute putting her hands up in the air, stomping her feet and running around in circles. Her favourite song at the moment is “Twinkle Twinkle Little Star” and she looooves the song “Dynamite “ from Taio Cruz This makes me wonder, what is Bella going to listen to when she is a teenager??? I love all kinds of music but I can’t stand that music where they scream into a microphone and it is labelled music! I have also noticed that more and more music is becoming sexually orientated. I understand that sex sells and you only have to turn the radio on to hear Rhiana singing about what is it actually teaching children out there? What exactly are they learning from it all? You only have to watch some reality TV programs to see how children have started dancing all provocatively to music where in the past they would not have had a clue what it was about.
What can we as parents do? We can’t change the music industry but we can help our children to listen to good music that doesn’t contain a million swear words and be there for them when they have questions. The more we support them, the more they will feel comfortable talking to us about things and when the time comes for Bella to ask me what a song means, I will feel relaxed about explaining about it. Until then I’ll keep signings at the top of my voice and encouraging Bella to sing as much as she can!Pin It